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Blind spot - Damage through self-righteousness

Blind spot

 

If I would have known

how big my blind spot really is,

I would have done

something about it

a long time ago.


But I was totally ignorant.

The emotional bombs I dropped

in the life of the people around me

were horrendous.


I was then offended

when they reacted upset at me

for I did not even know

how much distress

I had brought forth

and how much hurt and anger

I caused in the heart

of the other person.


But once I felt their reaction

I became angry

and then everything

just began to escalate

while I was sure

the other person

caused the conflict.


In my own self-righteousness

I had no need

to look at my own behavior

since in my view

I had done nothing wrong.


But I was very quick

in pointing out

the other person’s disrespect

towards me.


My defenses went up immediately

once they even dared

to give me some feedback.


It was my own blind spot

who caused me

not to learn or grow in love.

Oh, do I wish

I did not have it.

 


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Proverbs 3:7-8 (The Israel Bible)

Do not be wise in your own eyes; Fear Hashem and shun evil. 8 It will be a cure for your body, A tonic for your bones.

 

 

 

 

 

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