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Emotional language - Different emotional languages cause much distress

Emotional language


It has taken me a long time

to study and learn

your emotional language.


And still, I can’t speak it well.


Much hardship and pain

went into trying to figure out

what you really wanted

to communicate.


For so long

I have been longing

to communicate with you

openly and honestly

but there was always a barrier.


I felt ignored

when you just changed the topic

or walked away

when I had something

important to say.


You did not appreciate

my emotional language

and I never felt

you made any effort

to learn it either.


Oh how much longer

will we communicate

in different languages

and terribly

misunderstand each other?

 

 

 

Learning to communicate not just on a verbal but also on an emotional level is crucial in getting along with one another.  Many times there is a huge gap in what is being said and what is perceived. People tend to believe what they perceive more that what they hear. Learning good communication on an emotional level is very important.

 


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Talmud, Shabbat 33a

Words that are spoken with anger can break the bones of the heart; words spoken with wisdom bring healing.

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