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It’s someone else’s fault - Unproductive blame

It’s someone else’s fault

 

It is obvious that my misery

is someone else’s fault.


So far I have always

been able to find someone

who has made

my life miserable.

I have little to do with it.


If this and that had not happened

then I would do much better today.


I have become

the world record holder

in pointing fingers.


But what good does that do for me?

I’m still sitting around in the same dirt

and the other person

has a good life.


It took a long time

before I realized

that blaming others

is neither helpful

nor makes me happy.


After all it is me

who is wallowing in the dirt

and wastes my time with self-pity

instead of something productive.


It is me

who cannot let go

and doesn’t want to forgive.


It is me

who blames others

for my own wrongdoings

and by that keeps walking around

in the same circle.


It is me

who does not want to take on

any responsibility.


It is me

who constantly justifies

my own behavior

and does not want to learn

anything from it.


It is me

who remains furious

about the things in the past

and by that constantly feed

my inner fury.


It is obvious that my misery

is my own fault.

 

 

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Talmud, Avot 2:1

Every person has free will; focusing solely on others’ actions ignores personal responsibility and the opportunities for growth.

 

 

 

 

 

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